'Values' differ widely.... so do 'rights' and 'wrongs'....

Our values for us, to live happily and in dignity without disturbing others.... but 'our values' must never be so 'redundant in context' that they be used against us...

:-)..

I am not saying compromise with core beliefs.. or pillars of life..

I am saying 'our values' need not be sticking out so much as to make others feel we find fault with them needlessly, when they are themselves in peace and dignity,   or to the point where someone belittles us on the basis of our own values...

It is hard to find lifetime friends who accept you as you are, without having any interest in 'reforming' you or preaching things to you or having complexes w.r.t you..... they just might want to have a great time with all of us however we may be .... exceptionally notable is respect for personal beliefs and faith...

So when i happen to meet them by God's infinite grace, i dont want to be a loser ( yes I consider myself a loser if I lose such friends!) by not realizing their value... (antey mahattaramaina viluva..)

:-)..

blue was always the color of water for many people (light greenish as some ppl show, coz it is so in their region), the sun was always red/orange/yellow/a range of other shades,  pink typically girls' color since i cud remember and so many flowers being in that color, yellow being mangoes/aratipallu/jeedimavidipallu etc., ..

there were always vegis and fruits of different colors... etc., etc.,

all this nature created long before some people started viewing/compartmentalizing  the world with their templates! :-) .. although we hv to admit they are much ahead of anybody else in trying to know others.. ...

we can call ourselves a strong or good culture, only when we facilitate sharing of experiences, not just good, but also bad, without bringing a sense of discomfiture or shame or guilt to those who have no fault of theirs when they see something or go through something. 

bad experiences must be strongly shared collectively so they do not repeat in the system, without belittling those who hv faced them.

i am not sure if this is utopic and if this will ever happen, but i think and feel our older systems were much more natural, closer to peoples normal ways

of living and much more accommodating of all kinds of people - than what we we superimposed on ourselves as a part of professional modernization.

maybe  i do sound like  a heap of confused question marks, i hope some people can relate to me atleast.. that will give a little solace that i am not entire off-track.

someone's doha, i donno who,

prem chipaya na chipe, ja ghat pargat hoye
jo pe mukh bole nahi, to nain det hai roye.

:-)

Pothi Padh Padh Kar Jag Mua, Pandit Bhayo Na Koye
Dhai Aakhar Prem Ke, Jo Padhe so Pandit Hoye

Reading books everyone died, none became any wise
One who reads the word of Love, only becomes wise.

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Sometimes we do not know why there is scramble around, what it is that has to be scored or what it is that has to be changed or reformed

or who has to be put 'up or down'...etc., - just all this is totally new and out of normalcy for me. But looks like I managed to bring along a

little box of mess along with me (oops, it came by itself, telling my name! :-) ) after my Master's in the U of Strathclyde in 1999-2000,

when some ppl called Prof Young Mrs. Christine Donald Mr. Jim McColl and Mr. Mikeale McDermott started contacting anyone around in India, to enlist them in their 'fight club' networks!!

:-)..

What weird people and what a waste of everyone's top quality times and lives, thanks to their rubbish! :-).

But their frenzy seems to have taken over people left, centre, right, top and bottom.

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I simply love one very special friend's words 'emiti cheyyi, kaalu anukuntuu nuvvu chuustunnavu'... when he suddenly discovered how ridiculous all this stuff was!

:-)

Thanks to e-Snips, I have got such great friends and could interact with a very-much-wanted-to-greet friend whom I would never be able to meet in daily life.

My account on e-snips is simply a representative e-form or e-shape of what this very special friend gave me - an absolutely beautiful resting place and time, a little cove in a great island by the sea

and lots of commotion everywhere for virtually nothing!

In this cozy cove, I got to smile, laugh and share many (albeit many more were pending) little sillinesses of what triggered the mad frenzy for god-knows-what terms like 'power centres', 'corridors', 'hitting' etc., etc., were doing crazy rounds - simple reminiscences that these words

were very normally casually used to pass in theses or to convey ideas to other country government-trade wings. Not those that might be used in daily life or really sound normal (they sound vulgar, ugly and disgusting when used indiscriminately! :-) ..especially in India).

e-Snips has enabled me to say hi to such a friend who I could never meet in person and share all the giggles I would have ideally wanted to.

I am simply hoping I get many more such lovely friends who are all having in this e-Snips cove.